Sunday, February 3, 2008

Auspicious Dates Selection

Every Chinese couples will want their wedding to be smooth and everlasting. As such they will like to choose an auspicious date for their ROM and customary wedding. Some Geomancer (Fengshui Shifu) says Chinese Customary wedding date is the one that is more important and must select it at the most auspicious date whereas ROM date is not so important.

However we still decide to choose two auspicious dates for both our ROM and Customary wedding. I engaged a local famous geomancer to calculate the dates and the calculation is analyzed based on both of our Bazi. The geomancer told me depending on Tong Shu alone is not enough as some auspicious dates may not be good for the couples also. Truly auspicious dates should be calculated using both Bazi and some other "Chim" methodlogy. The timing is also very important, as good date must have the correct timing also.

We consulted both parents regarding the date selection. Her mum feels that the dates should instead be calculated by a trusted geomancer which she knows for many years. As such, we try to make an appointment with him and it is about one month later before we get to meet up with him.

As he is based in kuala Lumpur, we have to travel up by car all the way from JB to KL to meet him. I must really thanks her dad and her younger brother for the tiring journey as both are the drivers on that day. It a 6 hr drive to and fro.

Finally, we got to see him and everyone (Yiqi, me and his little brother) were very curious to see how he looks like and why he is so famous and highly regarded. The geomancer told us it was fate that we came all the way to KL and he would help us calculate the most auspicious dates for us based on our Bazi. He also told us that he is now semi retired and seldom do it for other people already.

He uses his fingers to do most of the calculations and it was fast. Immediately, at that time he had already analyzed our Bazi and can already tell what our Bazi signified. As our main aim is to select dates, he does not reveal much of our life and destiny. He only said that both of our Bazi are "He Yuan" (compatible) which we were quite happy to hear also. In the midst of conversation, he did reveal some advises on what i can do to excel in life ( like having which type of luck more etc...). He will also help us with the "Guo Da Li" things when our customary wedding date gets nearer.

Dear and me did a comparison of the auspicious dates selected by both geomancers and to my surprise, the dates are exactly the same with only one date differs. Now at least, both parents and us are happy with the dates and we can proceed with other planning.

As you can see, wedding is not only on the couples and it involves the parents as well. However, we must understand that whatever the parents do, they also want us to marry well.

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